|Our church's Vacation Bible School
photo courtesy of Darling Bride because I,
of course, wasn't there
It doesn't always work that way. During VBS week, at work, our team was scheduled to complete a specific project on site at a client's, on a specific timetable mutually agreed on between the client and us. After that project, I had to get back to the office to work on quarterly payroll tax returns for other clients. The government is generally inflexible in its deadlines.
The current cover story of The Atlantic, "Why Women Still Can't Have It All," is creating quite a buzz. This past Saturday I read it. While Anne-Marie Slaughter admittedly writes to her demographic of well to do career women, is it reasonable to conclude that "having it all" isn't necessarily a man or woman issue? (As the lengthy article concludes, she does expand her scope to include men's needs as she offers possible solutions).
|Mr. 5th Grader in VBS heaven!
As I think about Rob Petrie's and my schedule conflicts, some bullet points and suggestions come to mind:
- "Having it all" is really a myth, an impossible ideal. Since the industrial revolution made "working at home" (or the farm) the exception rather than the rule, us being finite beings means that we cannot be in more than one place at the same time.
- We try to "have it all" by trying to establish "balance" between home and work life. That is a myth too, thinking that if we try really hard at both, we will be happy. The Book Off Balance by Matthew Kelly explains what to do about that. I write about it here.
- Pray for wisdom in setting priorities. While you cannot do everything and be everywhere, are there reasonable limits you can set? What's negotiable? What's not? The answers are unique for each one of us.
- How are you spending your discretionary time? Are you giving your wife and kids your love and attention when you can?
While we cannot have it all, we can still have our priorities in order. Aspire for that.
P.S. My church friend Charity Singleton writes about having it all from a single's perspective at her site, Wide Open Spaces. She also refers readers to another response posted at The High Calling by Deidra Riggs.